We have an opinion of everything, and yet the biggest focus of these opinions is always upon ourselves. How we perceive ourselves dictates practically everything we do and feel. The strange thing is this perception is created in an arbitrary way by comparing and judging ourselves subjectively, then adopting those judgments as truth. This process can be quite random. The way you might “feel” today, what you “feel” you need to do, and even who you should be for others, is dictated by those judgments and ideas you created about yourself. You decided what you are good at, what you are bad at, your faults, the good bits, things you "hate" about yourself, what you deserve, etc.
Because we love to analyze ourselves to death, we then resort to creating unreasonable self-opinions. What we think we know of ourselves, we now feel the need to BE a second person that others will like, by meeting the expectations we "think" they must be liked. What a merry go round. The hamster wheel of death.
This is so consuming and then life becomes an extremely long battle of trying to be liked and chasing the expectations of others. And yet in all of this, we are simply trying to like and love ourselves past the negative self-opinions and expectations we created.
The good news is these ideas are simply subjective beliefs and judgments that come from the past, and we don't have to let them have power over us. We can CHOOSE to accept them for what they are, release them and become comfortable, content, and FREE in who and what we are.
We can look within and dissolve every self-opinion that has been accidentally created. We are that powerful.
With love,
Ellen